Without being clear on what we want in our future it is very hard to create a life that is satisfying and rich. How often do you take time to remind yourself about your wants and desires? It is important to take time to be self-ful and ourselves permission to enjoy some simple pleasures.
Being self-ful is nothing more then get clear on what I like to call personal non-negotiable. These are the things that when they are missing you feel a little cranky and resentful. For me it is really important that I have at least a 20 minutes each day to get out walk in nature. I use to think this was an extravagance. As a single mama of five - there was always something to be done and someone who needed something. However, when I missed out on my walks I found myself distracted and not fully able to focus. This was just one of many simple wishes I didn’t give my self permission to enjoy because of some old story I had in my head that putting me first was selfish.
Can you relate? There is no doubt that there are a few simple goodies you are not willing to go without. I have leaned that when my non-negotiables get forgotten I can get a little testy. For most of us as a child we lived in the land of ME – ME – ME. Then reality came in and hit us hard - the land of ME -ME - ME was considered selfish. We didn’t want to come off as being a little self centered and indulgent - so we began our journey into the realm of being afraid to asking for things we want. As adults we all can benefit from spend a little more time in the world of creating self-ful permissions.
Time for a shift! To begin, reflect on the following questions:
- I want to be sure my life includes . . .
- Something I do to spoil myself for a job well done . . .
- One treat I can give myself after a challenging day . . .
- I like to spend my free time . . .
- I want to be sure each day includes . . .
Then think what would you want to have those desires included a quality of self-fullness? Next, write your list of non-negotiable – your aka I am not going to go without list. Don’t get caught in the material realm completely. Think about the list from the emotional realm also. For example here are a few from my list.
- Take 20 minutes of me time each day to walk
- Time to play and get lost in life
- Read one book a month just for fun
- Good company and lots of laughter
- Skip unloading the dishwasher if I have a chance to catch a sunset
- Travel and adventure regularly
Now, turn that list into PERMISSION SLIPS, a fun way to turn those non-negotiable into something you have given yourself permission to do. This is a really important shift. Sometimes we feel like we are going to get a bad rap when we ask for what we want. For others it might be totally overwhelmed to ask for what they want. A permission slip is a visual reminder that you already have permission so there can be no guilt attached!
Finally, create your personal Permission Slips for example:
“Each day I will live a life that inspires me to be the best I can be. I give myself permission to play and laugh to remind myself of how joyful I am to be alive”
Be sure to come to comment below about some of the Permission Slips you created or share in my Facebook community to inspire others.